Questions, questions and more questions! They are the most amazing thing that we can ask when we are on a first date with someone. You just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview! Questions are the best way to get to know someone and show them we are interested in them. On a first date you just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview!

Dale Carnegie in his amazing must-read book, “How to win friends and influence people” writes about the power of asking good questions to show that we are interested in connecting with someone else.

You’ve probably been to a party and you have been the one asking the questions and doing most of the listening? If you have you will probably agree that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting – funny that! You probably did less that but you got 100% of the credit!

If you’re a guy and ask a lady some great questions, you will often find yourself leaping to last-base, saving a lot of time and energy trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and really listening to what a person says is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do with anyone.

If you’re a lady and want to pamper a guy’s ego and make him feel good, then just ask lots of questions and then listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a string from there on!

Despite the ego-focused side of asking and listening there is a genuine side as well. Because people who’re genuinely interested in someone else, are the people who are most popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.

Here are 21 questions to ask to get the conversation rolling. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions – which are always better.

Here’s 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl

1. If you are working as a waiter and one of your customers was rude, would you spill food accidentally on them or worst still spit in their soup?

2. What was your favourite Halloween dress up costume as a child and why?

3. If you could choose to have dinner with 5 people (real of fictional) who would you invite and why?

4. If you could become the invisible man, where would you go and what would you do when you got there?

5. If someone made a funny comedy movie about your life, which part of the story would be the funniest and why?

6. What was your favourite television character when you were a child? What did you like about them?

8. What do you regret not doing the most in your life?

8. What’s the most way-out experience you have had in your entire life?

9. Have you ever gone on a date with someone who is so much taller or smaller than you, and if so how did you get on kissing?

10. How old were you when you had your first proper date? Did you get to kiss them and if so was it a French kiss?

11. What’s the most horrible lie you have ever told someone in your life? Where you caught out and who was it that you told it to?

12. If you were suddenly turned into a woman for a day, how would you spend that day?

13. When you meet someone for the first time and you do not like them what would you normally do?

14. What’s the highest priority for you when considering a partner – good looks, intelligence, sense of humor, or something else?

Time to get a little more personal!

15. Have you ever been caught naked in a public place – if so what were you doing?

16. What’s the difference between sex and making love and which do you prefer?

17. If you could change the age that you lost your virginity, would you?

18. What turns you on the most?

19. Have you ever cheated on your partner? Did they ever find out? If so, what happened?

20. Has anyone ever caught you touching yourself sexually? If they did what did you do and who was it?

21. Have you ever serial sex – with one person and then been with a different person somewhere else within the same day?

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