couples Can Couples Counseling Or Therapy Help Save Your Relationship?

Are you searching for a therapist because you’re in a marriage that seems like it’s dead or seems as though it provides only irritation and rage?

Few experiences are more agonizing than choosing to spend your life with someone and later finding that you’re struggling to connect with them in a positive way.

When you feel like your partner isn’t the person you fell in love with; when you feel like the communication gap between you widens every day; when it feels like your relationship is beyond help after discovering an affair… you may begin to feel that it’s too late to do anything to salvage and save the love you once shared.

Yet, since you’re reading this, you likely still care sufficiently about your significant other and your relationship that you’re ready to do whatever you can to save it in any way it’s possible. If that’s so, your relationship is definitely worthy of saving and needs to be given a chance to thrive.

Couples counseling and therapy can allow you to restore the trust and intimacy you once enjoyed. Couples therapy can offer a secure and safe place plus the skills and resources that you need to provide your relationship a chance of success. Couples therapy can help you and your spouse:

Stop never-ending quarrels

Overcome previous injuries and uncomfortable memories

Resolve variations in parenting styles

Improve your intimacy and sex life

Heal from infidelity

Become closer

Become actively interested and engaged in the life you’ve created together

When considering couples counseling and therapy, it’s not uncommon to wonder whether seeing a couples therapist will actually help.

With this in mind, in recent years research has been undertaken to determine the effectiveness of couples therapy.

In an article produced by the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, clients of marriage and family therapists from fifteen states revealed their experiences with couples therapy. The answers show that marriage and family therapists can effectively resolve many couples issues in a rather short space of time and that patient outcomes and satisfaction levels are very good.

The majority of couples counselors would agree with the fact that a couple’s commitment to make their marriage work is the single most important element in determining the success of couples therapy. Even the best couples counselor is unlikely to help save a marriage in which one partner has already chosen to leave, and even an average couples therapist is likely to benefit a couple who are utterly devoted to doing the work necessary to make their relationship succeed.

What kind of couples benefit most from couples counseling? Besides those who’re ready to do the work necessary, the answer seems to be fairly young, non-sexist couples who remain in love and want to be honest and genuine with one another.

Which couples receive the least benefit from couples counseling? Couples therapy seems to be less successful for couples who wait too long before seeking help, and where one partner is already set on leaving and is closed to any suggestions that may save the relationship.

That having been said, if you and your partner are serious about creating the best relationship possible, couples counseling and couples therapy can provide a safe space to explore your relationship, help you uncover and overcome the destructive patterns in your interactions with one another, and provide you communication tools and skills to restore trust, build intimacy, and rediscover the joy, surprise, and closeness in your relationship.

To learn more about couples counseling and therapy, visit Martin Baker’s website on couples therapy in Santa Clara, CA.

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