You can’t go forward until there is closure of an old relationship is the common belief. So is closure a must? My best explanation is, I think it is unique to every individual. Some people never really achieve what is viewed as closure and can still go on to have successful relationships.

Is closure that ah-ha moment when you can let go of the past and have forgiveness? And is it absolutely necessary to be able to date again? Check this out:

There Is A Difference Between Dating & Relationships

When you are dating there really is no emotional commitment. There might be attraction and nervousness, going on but it’s at a pretty minor scale. Dating is like a practice run so there really isn’t any closure needed.

When comparing dating to a relationship it’s like comparing a soap box derby to a NASCAR race. There is a whole lot more to a relationship, especially when you have involved 100% of your love, your dreams and your future plans.

You invest so much in a relationship, and the closure process comes in the form of getting back the control of your love, your dreams and your future visions. Unless we have back command of these pieces we will find it very difficult to start the process of a happy future with someone new.

I Told You That To Tell You This…

Lets just say you find another, they have the looks that you like, they are funny, they have manners and they smell good. What sucks is if you are not in control of your feelings from your last relationship this new one doesn’t have a chance.

You need to put off any relationship until you are 100 percent alright with your ex not being in your life. Until you feel you are OK with your ex being out of your life stay away from anything that comes close to a relationship.

If you are not yet ready for a relationship does that mean you shouldn’t date? No, studies have shown that dating can speed up the act of getting your heart, your hopes and your dreams back.

Getting Back What Is Yours

Here’s what I mean: Dating closure isn’t a must but relationship closure is, if you are looking to build a successful relationship in the future. It is well worth the time and energy to get your emotional ducks in a row. Because it’s not fair to you or the other person, know matter what they smell like.

It might be one of the scariest things you have ever had to do, but taking control of your emotions is well worth it. You need to take a step back and look at the big picture, your happiness in the future, no matter how hard it is to get there.

There are times when it’s not the right answer to seek closure and move on. If you’re still in love with your ex you don’t have to move on until you’re ready to. You can get your ex back I can show you how. The Make Up Plan