If you were just dumped, then right now, you’re hurt, and you’re probably thinking about how you can get your ex back. Before you take action, please, please, please do yourself a favor and stop for a second. Think: Do you really want them back? Do you honestly think (not feel, but THINK) that it can work out? Think about why you broke up, consider if you were really happy with them, and then make your decision.

That said, if you’ve made up your mind, read on…

Step One: Go On A Date With Someone Else

Meet a cute gal and go out for dinner and a show. This will get your mind off of your past for long enough to think things through clearly, and it will remind you that you’re still in the game. You don’t need to tie yourself down, you only want your ex if you want them over this new chick that’s coming on to you. This gets your big brain thinking for your little brain, not the other way around.

Step Two: Give Her A Call

Ask her if she wants to meet for coffee or something so that the two of you can just talk things over and voice your complaints. Make a deal: You won’t argue. It’ll be tough to live up to that bargain, but it’s worth a try. Hear them out, don’t tell them that they’re wrong about their complaints. Explain yourself if you feel the need, but don’t think you need to correct them. If they’re wrong about you, then they really don’t respect you or know you well enough to deserve you. Voice your complaints and let them voice theirs.

Third Step: Come to a Mutual Decision

Getting together again only works if the vote is unanimous. If they’re not interested, leave it at that. Wish them luck and go home and look forward to an uncertain but certainly bright future. On the other hand, if you both agree that it might be time to try to work it out, proceed with caution. Don’t jump right back in to living together again. Rather, start over from scratch, treat them like a new person. The key problem in long term relationships is when you come to a point where you don’t really know each other anymore, so try to find out if this new them is still someone you can love and take it one date at a time… And keep your options open. Nobody says you have to go steady right away.

What’s most important is that, before doing any of this, you spend a little bit of time single just to remind yourself that YOU are the source of your own happiness. Get your head and your heart in the right place, and then think about giving it another shot.

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