Gary Neuman’s book, “The Truth About Cheating”, exposes that 1 out of 3 men will most likely cheat. Even worse, their wives will probably never know about it. Gary interviewed hundreds of men, both faithful and unfaithful, in the course of writing the book. He discovered very intriguing information along the way.
Mr Neuman has been working hard as a marriage counseling expert for years and his work gave him the inspiration to write the book. Gary likes helping children of divorcees. The best way to help these kids, Gary feels, is to prevent their parents from splitting up in the first place.
The book, according to Gary, is all about empowering women. The book likewise highlights this issue: why do men cheat. The issue isn’t about sex as the vast majority of the men Gary interviewed insist. The issue really is about emotional needs that aren’t met. Many of us live chaotic and stressful lives. It becomes very easy to be emotionally detached. For this reason, the couples no longer make the time to show appreciation for their partners.
The writer shows that guys are emotional creatures too. They can seemingly be very strong on the outside but they are very vulnerable internally. They need to constantly feel appreciated too. Men will look elsewhere as long as they can’t satisfy their emotional needs at home.
Another fundamental concept that women should be aware of is that men love to win. This idea is shown when guys watch sports. Watching is only pleasurable for men so long as their team is winning. Men will stop watching the moment their team begins to lose. Oftentimes, it’s not easy for women to show their love for men who don’t do their part. Even so, men will feel emotional fulfillment if the things they do for their wives are appreciated because it will feel as though they are winning.
Another interesting discovery that Gary reports is that men don’t actually look for another woman who is more physically attractive than their wives. It is usually really about the emotional connection. Having said that, infidelity will never be excused. Then again, if you are a woman who wishes to save your relationship, you might like to look at the emotional needs of your partner. Showing a bit of appreciation can go a long way in solving marriage problems. The amazing thing is that when we show appreciation, we also get a similar thing in return. When we praise our partners for the stuff that they do for us, we feed the bond to make it healthier. Saving a relationship can in fact be accomplished by taking the first step of showing appreciation.
That being said, building a strong relationship should be the focus of every couple. Thinking that it is more about averting divorce is detrimental. Again, consider ways to make your marriage stronger.